Attraction to our spouse has less to do with desiring our spouse than to our own hearts conditioning.
Remember the metaphysical saying, “what we think about we bring about.” What are you focusing on when it comes to your spouse? All the good qualities or all the things that you don’t like…Where is Your Heart?
How are you communicating with your spouse? Is it in a loving manner? A forgiving manner?
I know I am certainly not a 100% loving and forgiving person, but I do recognize when I am not and quickly make amends. I explain why I wasn’t able to be available at that time. Careful never to blame my spouse but to let them know I was “somewhere else” or if they could approach me differently next time.
Remembering to come from my heart; trying to be open and compassionate.